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The Understand Work First

Bangaly Kaba

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Your kid is crying. You're already offering a snack, suggesting a nap, reaching for the screen. But do you actually know what's wrong?

Bangaly Kaba introduced a reframe: most people do 'identify, justify, execute' - decide what to do, find data to back it up. The better approach is 'understand, identify, execute.'

Watch a parent with a crying toddler. The instinct is to fix: snack, nap, show. Identify solution, justify it ('probably tired'), execute. But what if we started with understand?

'The tendency for a lot of product people is to jump to the solution.'

Sit with them. Observe. Ask what happened. Maybe they're not hungry or tired - maybe their favorite toy broke and they don't have words for grief yet. Maybe something happened at school they can't articulate.

Bangaly's team spent months trying to fix Indian growth with experiments. Nothing worked. When they flew to Delhi and actually sat in people's homes watching them use the app, they found the real problem in days.

Understand first. The fixing comes after - and it's usually faster because you're fixing the right thing.

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PM Theme: Problem discovery / research

Parenting Theme: Understanding before reacting

Quotes that inspired this tip
The tendency for a lot of product people is to jump to the solution... the tendency is to identify something, find data to justify it, and then just go execute on the work. But actually understanding is a completely different activity.Bangaly Kaba · 00:06:40
You spend probably as much time as necessary getting to a common level of understanding before you then identify what to do.Bangaly Kaba · 00:08:15
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