High Agency Parenting

Shreyas Doshi describes high agency as 'finding a way to get what you want without waiting for conditions to be perfect.'

Low agency parenting: 'We'd read more but there's no time.' 'We'd have better routines but the kids won't cooperate.' 'We can't do that because...'

High agency parenting: 'We have no time so we read for five minutes - whatever we can grab.' 'Kids resist routines, so we let them help design one they'd actually follow.' 'We can't do it that way, so we found another way.'

Three components: ownership mindset (it's on me to fix this), creative execution (there's always another way), and resilience (keep trying different approaches).

Conditions for parenting are never perfect. Resources always limited. Kids always resist.

'They took strong ownership and then they creatively executed through the challenges.'

High agency parents find a way anyway. They don't wait for circumstances to improve - they create new circumstances.

(And yes, sometimes you're just tired and can't. That's fine too. This isn't about guilt. It's about options.)